The past couple years have been filled with disappointments, for everyone. The constantly evolving regulations around the pandemic has led to lots of last minute changes and cancellations to events and there’s a good chance that will continue into 2022. I have already seen a lot of posts about 2022 being a repeat of the last two years and the disappointment has already consumed us (and we are only 10 days in!). Looking forward to things is an important part of mental wellbeing, but how can you look forward to things anymore? Let’s explore a little about what disappointment is and how to best deal with what feels like a constant parade of disappointments.
Everyone should own the book The Little Book of Hygge, The Danish Way to Live Well by Meik Wiking and re-read it for every holiday season. I am bringing mine out now to remind myself of all the hygge (pronounced Hooga, but I have also heard and prefer Hue-ga) things about the holiday. My husband got me this book when he was coming home from a business trip to Denmark a couple years ago where he had heard the word a couple times and thought I might like the book. Like it? I loved it! I loved it so much I try to embody hygge in my daily living, my home décor, and my relationships. So light a candle, pour yourself a cup of hot coffee, put on some warm socks, and let’s take a moment to revisit hygge and all it encompasses as we prepare for the holiday season.
It’s Monday morning, I pour myself a cup of coffee. The fragrance of caffeine fills my nostrils as I hope it will wake me up. I take a sip, no magic wake up powers are in effect yet. It’s the holidays, everything is piling up, to-do lists, appointments, meetings and social gatherings are filling my schedule. Anyone else have a case of the holiday sleepy’s? Well, you are not alone. Let’s take a look at how we can combat this tiredness and re energize for the holiday season!
Someone told me that the secret to relationships is honoring your commitments. This really stuck with me. We’ve all done it, we’ve all broken promises to our friends, family member’s, co-workers and even ourselves. So let’s dig a little more into the psychology of commitments, how we can better honor our commitments to others and our self, and how to handle a commitment you have to break.
Have you processed your COVID grief? What I mean is, have you processed what you lost in the past two years? The past couple years have been tough, on everyone, and here’s the thing, we are actually experiencing a collective grief. Brittany N. Cole in her book “Thrive Through It” walks us through what thriving through grief looks like, highlighting that grieving is not only felt through the physical loss of someone, but instead defines grief as “Grief is a natural emotion of complex, conflicting, and frequently unpredictable feelings in response to a loss or change that disrupts a familiar pattern or prevents the desired outcome”. Lives dive into this new definition of grief.
Work remote has become an unexpected reality for many of us for almost two years now. Two whole years of work remote, yet I still go on video calls with faces too dark to see while sitting on their couches. Many of you are still working in your dining room, still having Wi-Fi issues, and don’t even have a second monitor set up. Y ‘all, this is your wake up call, its been two years, and its time to invest in your work remote life! The more we treat our remote office as temporary, the more our career feels temporary and the psychological impacts on a temporary life lead to lots of anxiety. So let’s revitalize, re-energize, and invest in your work remote space so that you feel ready to take on the day (and no, I won’t make you wear pants).
Joy is a term we are all used to hearing. When I think of joy I think of that person that lights up a room, that has an infectious smile, that person that makes you feel better after just being around them, that person who is endlessly optimistic and more than generous. Yet, we live in a society that squashes joy, a society that encourages comparisons, that values money over contentment, that constantly reminds us of the sad and horrible things going on in the world. So how do we find joy when things don’t feel joyous, when pessimism is the voice of society, and sadness preys around us. So let’s explore what joy versus happiness is, examples of how we can choose joy everyday, and how we can spread joy, particularly this holiday season.
I remember my first experience with Imposter Syndrome. It was not fun, it was confusing and led me to lots of self doubt. Well apparently, I am not alone! Actually, tons of people, even people like Melinda Gates and Michelle Obama have confessed to feeling like an imposter. So what is Imposter Syndrome? Read more to learn more about what it is, who it affects and how to overcome it. Let’s bring out the best version of you after reading this article about unveiling Imposter Syndrome.
A letter to you, to women. May you spend a moment reading a letter of encouragement and advice and find the time to reflect on what you would write to other women, to young girls or even a younger version of yourself. Leave your note to women and girls in the comments.
Have you ever been on a vacation or a summer break and thought to yourself “I can’t wait to get back into a routine again”? For many, this is the case, after periods of inconsistency, or chaos, we start to crave a habitual routine. Everyone talks about the power of routines and the power of habit, others talk about the power of rest and vacations, but what about the power of planned ambiguity and chaos. As humans, it is clear that we thrive on routine and the power of habits. What if routines are only possibly, only beneficial when used intermittently, when used with periods of ambiguity or perhaps even chaos. What if the only way to get into a routine, to crave routine, to thrive off of routine, is to intentionally plan periods of ambiguity and chaos between periods of routine. Read on to learn more about my approach to routines and planned ambiguity.