In my job, I work with people a lot. I recently moved into a project management type role which has led to me dealing with all kinds of different people. If you work in an office setting (or heck even a grocery store), then I am sure you have been confronted with a defensive person before. It can be frustrating and confusing to understand a defensive person, especially if you are coming from a good place. I have asked a lot of really smart people for advice on this topic, as well as read some articles and books, and here are some takeaways I have for you.
Someone told me that the secret to relationships is honoring your commitments. This really stuck with me. We’ve all done it, we’ve all broken promises to our friends, family member’s, co-workers and even ourselves. So let’s dig a little more into the psychology of commitments, how we can better honor our commitments to others and our self, and how to handle a commitment you have to break.
Have you processed your COVID grief? What I mean is, have you processed what you lost in the past two years? The past couple years have been tough, on everyone, and here’s the thing, we are actually experiencing a collective grief. Brittany N. Cole in her book “Thrive Through It” walks us through what thriving through grief looks like, highlighting that grieving is not only felt through the physical loss of someone, but instead defines grief as “Grief is a natural emotion of complex, conflicting, and frequently unpredictable feelings in response to a loss or change that disrupts a familiar pattern or prevents the desired outcome”. Lives dive into this new definition of grief.
Work remote has become an unexpected reality for many of us for almost two years now. Two whole years of work remote, yet I still go on video calls with faces too dark to see while sitting on their couches. Many of you are still working in your dining room, still having Wi-Fi issues, and don’t even have a second monitor set up. Y ‘all, this is your wake up call, its been two years, and its time to invest in your work remote life! The more we treat our remote office as temporary, the more our career feels temporary and the psychological impacts on a temporary life lead to lots of anxiety. So let’s revitalize, re-energize, and invest in your work remote space so that you feel ready to take on the day (and no, I won’t make you wear pants).
I remember my first experience with Imposter Syndrome. It was not fun, it was confusing and led me to lots of self doubt. Well apparently, I am not alone! Actually, tons of people, even people like Melinda Gates and Michelle Obama have confessed to feeling like an imposter. So what is Imposter Syndrome? Read more to learn more about what it is, who it affects and how to overcome it. Let’s bring out the best version of you after reading this article about unveiling Imposter Syndrome.
Having a successful career that takes you where you want to be, challenges you, and gives you a sense of purpose can be within your own hands. I have had some major career successes and major career pitfalls. I am still on a long journey of learning, but here are some of the most helpful tips I’ve learned and accumulated so far while growing my career. I hope you too can benefit from the things I have learned and perhaps you can share a few you have learned with me!
Have you ever been on a vacation or a summer break and thought to yourself “I can’t wait to get back into a routine again”? For many, this is the case, after periods of inconsistency, or chaos, we start to crave a habitual routine. Everyone talks about the power of routines and the power of habit, others talk about the power of rest and vacations, but what about the power of planned ambiguity and chaos. As humans, it is clear that we thrive on routine and the power of habits. What if routines are only possibly, only beneficial when used intermittently, when used with periods of ambiguity or perhaps even chaos. What if the only way to get into a routine, to crave routine, to thrive off of routine, is to intentionally plan periods of ambiguity and chaos between periods of routine. Read on to learn more about my approach to routines and planned ambiguity.
Work-life balance cannot be a one-size fits all, but the phrase has definitely been used in that way lately. When an individual says “I need more work-life balance”, it can mean a plethora of things from “I work too much” to “I miss my family” to “I am unhappy at my job”. So let’s dive into this feeling of imbalance, identify if a toxic work environment is a leading cause, and see if we can help you find NOT “work-life balance” but instead contentment in your current place of life.
According to Inc.com, approximately 80% of people who make New Year’s goals have quit pursuing them by mid-February. If you’re one of those people, you are not alone, but let’s help you identify your opportunities to improve your goal setting because I bet you have some pretty awesome goals. You can and will achieve all the goals you have set out for yourself!
Procrastination. We’ve all been there, we can’t get ourselves to write the paper, make the doctor appointment, finish the shelving in the garage, get our workout in, do the laundry or write the email until perhaps it’s absolutely last minute and the consequences are too high not to do it. This post will help give advice to procrastinators on how to actually get that work done you keep saying you will. This post may also help some of my anti-procrastinators stay curious about their procrastinating friends and family members.