If you’re anything like me, you’ve spent a lot of your life fighting the lies in your head. As women, we particularly love to listen to those little lies and insecurities. The voices that tell you, you aren’t enough, you aren’t worthy, you’re not smart, you’re not pretty, you’re not able, you’re a bad wife/ friend/ mother/ etc. …those are LIES. Those are your insecurities, your brain’s way of coping with your biggest fears and pressures. Society puts a lot of pressure on women, from looking perfect, to being the do-it-all kind of woman, to being elegantly put together all the time. We are human, which means we will not be perfect, we will mess up, we will look “rough” some days, we will cry and get angry, we will get frustrated, we will say what we didn’t mean and other times wonder why we didn’t say anything at all. Self love and acceptance is so important, but not modeled a lot. When we have a world full of women who are confident and love themselves, we will be an unstoppable world, a world full of less bitterness and competition, but filled with growth and empowerment. When we stop believing the lies in our head and the lies in society, I believe women can rise together and change the world as we know it. We must address those lies and be reminded daily of the truth.
Here are a few mantras I want you to say out loud and stop at the one that makes your heart skip a beat. Is there one that makes you say “wow, that’s a great reminder”. If there is, then that’s the one, that’s the one that may be the biggest lie you are fighting every day. Once you identify the lie (or multiple lies), you can work on correcting it. This can take YEARS of therapy and work to change the brain pattern of this lie, but this is a start. Find your mantra, do the journal prompt challenge below and repeat your truth throughout the day.
Daily Mantras for Women
Speak these mantras out loud, maybe in front of a mirror or quietly seated with your eyes closed. Find one that speaks to you:
- I am enough
- I am beautiful
- I am confident
- I am capable
- I am worth it
- I accept myself for who I am
- I am okay to fail
- I am not afraid
- I believe in myself
- I am strong
- I am kind
- I am forgiving
- I am sexy
- I belong here
- I am a great … [insert friend/mother/wife/etc.]
- I am grateful
- I am smart
- I have a voice
- I can do whatever I put my mind to
- My voice needs to be heard
- I can make a difference
- I am worthy of love, friendship and success
- I forgive myself
- I forgive others
- I am in control
- I can let go of control
- I do not compare myself to others lives, I am proud of who I am and where I am
- I love me
Journal Prompt: Mantras
At the top of the page write out the Mantra that stuck out to you
- What is the lie behind the Mantra?
Example: If the mantra that stuck out to you was “I am smart” there is some lie making you believe you aren’t smart.
- What do these lies mean to me/ where do I think they came from? (draw pictures, bullet point words, or write out sentences)
Example: The lie saying I am not smart comes from being the butt of dumb blonde jokes growing up, or comments such as wow, she’s pretty and smart?
- What is the truth? (include mantra or statements that highlight the truth)
Example: The truth is you are smart and intelligent, you don’t have to prove that to anyone, but if you did… you could prove it too
You may want to do a new journal entry for each Mantra that stuck out to you. Stay curious, kind and loving through this exercise.
Working through your insecurities is one of the hardest things you will ever do and it will likely be a lifelong journey, however it is the most rewarding thing you will ever put your time into. Stay curious about your thoughts and feelings and you will find it can heal you and your relationships.
Therapy or counseling is another incredible resource for working through your insecurities and can help you understand the depths of the lies in your head. My hope for you is to find self love and acceptance because I can’t wait to see what you can contribute to the world once you accept yourself fully. Check out this great article for advice on seeking a therapist: How to Find a Therapist.
We must learn to lean into our vulnerability, stay curious, and practice courage.Brene Brown